It’s so sad and disturbing to know that kids live in situations like this with little relief to be found. We are groomed to keep the hoarding secret, to hide when the doorbell rings and make sure we never invite people over. The odor of the hoard is unmistakable. It clings to our clothes and […]
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Yes, I DO mean EVERYONE. YLITH = Youth Living in The Hoard Consider the youth who doesn\’t want to get on camera on a zoom or conference call. Or the college student who doesn\’t want to go home for the holidays leaving their clean living space to visit the hoard they worked so diligently to
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The #madness needs to stop. I am utterly horrified that us #AKOPTH are pushed, \”encouraged\” or otherwise manipulated into thinking that WE MUST take in our #PTH Parents That Hoard. It is one thing to take in your “elderly parent” who actually willingly wants and appreciates the gesture and will not destroy our property and
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Hoarding is not a rational situation and it can be exhausting, confounding and disturbing to deal with. The societal expectation that we are to “help our parents” is alive and well. However this expectation often doesn’t take into account the difficult relationships many families struggle with. The norm doesn’t really look at the trauma a
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Youth Living In The Hoard The #hashtag #YLITH was developed because I wanted a way to differentiate the YOUTH who may have opportunities to escape the hoard from time to time. I wanted there to be a resource especially for YOUTH that are trying to navigate & escape a hoarded, chaotic home. It can be
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As we wander toward another Mother’s Day it is valuable to note that not everyone can easily grab a card off the rack. For some not much thought is needed, grab a pretty one with a relatively nice sentiment and pop it in the mail. Easy peasy. Others struggle to find a card that actually
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Right now of course this is a necessary topic of discussion. -Some of us are not new to this idea. -Some people identify as introverts. -Some people choose peaceful home environments. -Some of us have recovered from toxic relationships. -Some of us actively seek quiet, solitude and simplicity. One of my favorite recent learnings is
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When we are faced with the challenge of hoarding issues with our parents in particular, it is vital for our own health and well-being to establish boundaries. A few boundaries or questions to consider when we create boundaries are: ~ Where will you stay when you go for a visit? ~ What and where will
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Hoarding has long lived in silence because most people don’t know what to say or how to show their concern. In having these discussions with folks, it seems the best way to talk about hoarding issues is to use direct statements that focus on areas of concern. Here are some examples that might be helpful
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Excessive clutter or even just some clutter can lead to social isolation. If we have too much stuff we may no longer feel comfortable with inviting people over. We may stop asking our friends to drop by, we may only greet visitors at the door. It’s possible that what was once “just clutter” has now
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